Soigné  –  Also soignée, an adjective, pronounced (swän-yā’)

It’s a French word, according to the dictionary, that means:

  1. Showing sophisticated elegance; fashionable: a soigné little club.
  2. Well-groomed; polished: The soigné celebrity granted a brief interview.

“Soigné dining”, a phrase my father often used while my brothers and I were growing up, to describe the meal and table set before him in the dining room.  It was such a compliment to my mother on an exotic dinner she had made, fit for a king, cut glass dishes for the condiments, fine china and fancy serving bowls.

In 1994, after 50 years of marriage, my parents both passed away, three months apart from cancer, and it was while writing the eulogy for their memorial service that I realized I had no idea how to spell this word, soigné.  And for almost 10 years, no one I asked had ever heard of this word.

The phrase “soigné dining”, passed down to my husband and I along with the cut glass and fancy serving bowls, would make me smile  whenever either of us would say it, thinking my father must have made the word up.

Until 2004, I was watching a show I had taped on VHS and at the end, the last half of an old episode of Frazier was playing.  Niles had gotten a good deal on some beluga caviar and the brothers were so excited.  I was just about to hit the Stop button when I heard Frazier say,  “Oh Niles, won’t this make our soiree soigné?”.  I played it back several times.  I couldn’t believe it!  More determined than ever, knowing then that it was a real word, I searched the internet for the spelling and definition again and came up with nothing.

And then one day, I passed this woman coming into the building where I worked.  She had overheard me tell this story about my father and the word, soigné, and she looked right at me and said, “Soigné, it’s a French word.  Did you ever figure out how it is spelled?”  No, I hadn’t, I told her.  She wrote it on a post it note and handed it to me.   The search and mystery had ended. Since then, I have heard the word used on Project Runway and in a song by The Pine Leaf Boys and on a few other occasions and it makes me smile every time.

Newport Beach

Sunset over Newport Beach California from the Corona Del Mar Beach

I am so ready for a vacation from all this cold Jersey weather.  Just saying…

Sunset over Newport Beach


This photo was taken from the jetty on the other side of the inlet in Corona Del Mar.  Didn’t catch any fish but the sunset was spectacular.

Quote by George Bernard Shaw

People are always blaming...

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are.  I don’t believe in circumstances.  The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them. ”

A great quote by George Bernard Shaw


Our Little Yorkie, Winston

Our new dog rescue named Winston

I am so grateful to for rescuing this little Yorkie.  He lived behind a convenience store after being beaten and abandoned in the middle of winter last year.  Severely matted and frightened, he survived on food left for him by people who cared but would not let anyone near him.  After 2 months on his own, a woman and her two daughters, bless their hearts, spent 2 days in the freezing weather trying to coax him near enough to be able to catch him.  SOSDogs (save our small dogs) paid for much needed medical attention and then he spent 6 months with a foster mom who taught him how to trust people and what life in a loving home looks like.

When I saw his little face on Pet Finders and read his story, I knew I wanted to adopt him.  The process to qualify for a rescue such as this is rather extensive but we made it and Winston is now happily adjusting to life with our family.

Don’t you just love a happy ending?